Parenting

If you’re not already reading Tony Woodlief over at Sand in the Gears, you really should be. Today’s essay has a wonderful insight into parenting and how it echoes the relationship between us and God:

Last weekend I stood behind him as he climbed a step ladder to the top rung, and then tried to climb atop the curved bar at its pinnacle, and all the while I thought: he’ll fall and I’ll catch him but on the way down he’ll learn a little something about not risking life and limb so readily.

But of course he didn’t fall, instead he twisted around to see me standing there and hooted and wiggled in his triumph over Mt. Stepladder, until the hubris was too much and I had to extract him, to wails of protest, followed by the stubborn set of chin and deliberate stomping crawl back to the bottom rung. And I thought, this is what God has to put up with, every single day. This is the point of parenting, from his perspective, his way of saying See? Do you see what you people are like?”

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Marriage

I’ve been somewhat less productive than normal lately, but at least I have a reason. My wife and I just celebrated 3 months of marriage and we’re still working out the details of married life. This isn’t a bad thing, a good marriage requires a lot of give and take on the part of both partners, and the early days of the marriage is when a lot of it takes place. It’s interesting to me that the hardest thing for both of us seems to be getting used to having someone serve us. We both tend to be servants and it makes either of us a bit jittery to have the other one serving them. I’m sure we’ll get used to it in the long term, but frankly, I don’t want to get too used to it. I don’t want to take the things that Kara does for me for granted, nor do I want her taking me for granted. God has blessed me with a truly wonderful wife and I never want my gratitude for that to wane.

Wedding Planning for Grooms

Being a conscientious groom, I have studied carefully to determine my responsibilities prior to the wedding. I have determined that they boil down to a very few things.

  • Buy ring
  • Propose
  • Supply addresses for invitations
  • Make sufficient friends to supply groomsmen
  • Get measured for Tuxedo
  • Pick up said Tuxedo on the appropriate day
  • Sign checks
  • Plan h0neymoon
  • Get marriage license
  • Show up for the rehearsal and wedding (on time!)
  • Sign marriage license

Notice that nowhere in that list is “Pick out Tuxedo” or “Help address invitations”, or even (God forbid!) “Help pick out wedding dress”. If I stick to this list, my Bride will be happy, which will make me happy too. A man has to know his limitations 🙂

Love Life (mine that is!)

If you’ve been wondering why I’ve been so scarce, it’s because there’s a new woman in my life (and she’s not the cat!). A most beautiful and intelligent one at that and I’ve been spending pretty much all the time I can spare with her (you would too, if you were me). Unfortunately, she lives 5 hours away, so that means I only get to see her on the weekends. Mind you, the drive is worth it, it just cuts into my free time for doing other things (like blogging, etc.). Plus, as I’m a bit twitterpated, I’m just not able to get much intellectual steam up for writing :).
In any case, it is truly amazing what God will do for us when we get out of the way and let Him. He’s led me to someone with a similar background, tastes and desires and I am very thankful for that. It’s usually that way, when we finally turn God loose and stop trying to do things all on our own, that’s when He can really do a work. Not only has He led me to someone physically, mentally and emotionally appealing to me, she’s also spiritually appealing and challenging. And I need to be challenged spiritually, having been a Christian essentially my entire life, I find it entirely too easy to be complacent about my relationship with Christ, it’s good to have someone who can kick me in the spiritual butt now and again. Challenges are good, they keep you sharp and help prevent that complacency.
So, to sum up, I’m ridiculously happy at the moment and tend to walk around with a silly grin.

Manly Men!

The King of Fools notes that manly men are back in vogue. This is according to a new Harris interactive poll indicating that women once again want their men to look and act like men. This is good news for those of us that thought the “metrosexual” thing was a bit silly in the first place. I mean, there’s being clean and well-groomed and then there’s just ridiculous. Manicures? Any manicurist who saw my hands and nails would run screaming from the shop! And there ain’t no point buying expensive shampoos for non-existent hair, now is there?

Forgiveness

Probably the most difficult thing to do as a Christian (or for that matter as a non-Christian) is to forgive. We all want to be forgiven our mistakes, large or small, but it’s so deucedly hard to do for others. And yet it’s essential to our lives as Christians. The Lord’s prayer says Forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us. God has given us an amazing model of forgiveness, forgiving all our trespasses both large and small, and yet, we often find it hard to forgive the merest perceived slight.

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Submission

Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.
Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
Ephesians 5:21-24

I’d say this passage ranks up there as one of the most misunderstood and abused passages in the entire New Testament, if not the whole Bible. It’s been used far too often as a license for abuse and misogyny and all because submission is so misunderstood.

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